Imagine Harry, Harry is pissed off at life. He hates his job, not overly excited with his marriage, his kids are assholes and he admits he is an asshole as well. Harry is driving to the grocery store to get some milk for his youngest kid because the kid will only eat cereal for dinner. Harry notices the nice sports car next to him. He finds himself thinking, "I wish I had that car. I wish I had the driver's life, hell, I wish I had any life but mine."
Harry pulls into the parking lot and notices a young father with a toddler on his back running happily into the store. Harry grabs his beer belly, or more accurately, his donut belly and thinks of healthier and better days. He mumbles a few curse words in the direction of the world, gets out and slams his old and beat up car door. As he nears the store opening, a young and fit college-age woman walks by in the tightest leggings possible. Harry again remembers better days, days when his wife looked good for him and days when he put in the effort for her.
Harry gets to the milk section, grabs a gallon and checks the price, DAMN, he puts it back and picks up the half-gallon. He decides he is not going to work overtime just to feed his 8-year-old kid cereal at dinner time. He heads towards the checkout and begins to think about the sports car, the tight leggings, the fit father and the price of milk and his spoiled ass kids. Harry feels a tightness in his chest, screams, "Oh shit!" He falls over and dies in the produce section with a busted HALF-GALLON of milk seeping into his favorite and dirty university sweatshirt, a university he did not attend because of unforeseen circumstances.
NOW SHIT!! That sucks, but what is so different from our daily lives? Are you crushing it, are you living a full and rewarding life? Most of us could answer, "Well, I could probably improve in some areas or well in most areas."
Yep, we all have those dreams or thoughts of what if. BUT what if we quit crying and thinking and actually started DOING. Listen, a life without progress and goals is a boring-ass comfortable life. And comfort will kill you!! We've heard of the stories of healthy people retiring and dying within the next few weeks. My point being a person not moving forward with no reason, no desires, no dreams, is NOT LIVING. If you are bored with your asshole life, your asshole kids, and your asshole self...DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, before you die in the produce with leaking milk, and a half-gallon at that.
Set a goal, make sure it is specific, measurable, attainable, relative, and time-based. Yes, I stole this, its called SMART goals, I stole it because I'm not your mom and my kid is screaming for CEREAL, but dammit there is no leggings running around here, and besides I'm a single parent (and a man) and I would feel awkward dying in the produce wearing tight leggings, yep, you guessed it we are out of milk. So, I have to run to the store.
BUT quickly for your minivan-driving ass, our goals need to be specific because everyone has a GENERAL goal such as I want to be fit. BUUUT there are a million ways to get fit, and just sitting around thinking about it will leave you like Harry. Define how you are going to get fit, this helps to be more efficient and effective in reaching your goal.
Next, make sure it's measurable, so you can track your progress. For example, I want to lose 20 pounds, so I'm able to track that, instead of a general I'm going to lose weight. No shit sherlock but how much. Tracking looks like this, Week one I lose 5, week two 3, and etc. Thus if by the end of the month I haven't lost any weight, I can measure that and say dammit Jeran, quit eating donuts or you will never fit the leggings.
Next, has to be attainable, because if it's not, well you won't reach it, duh!! right!? Also if we set goals to high, we are most likely gonna give up altogether once we realize we can't run into the store with a kid on our back, after one whole day of doing yoga, right!? Set a goal that is tough but reachable.
Next, It has to be relative(not your sister unless..wait no, never your sister) relative to your overall goals and life purpose, if you want to get fit, deciding you want to go to clown college does not align with fitness, and distracts you from your true purpose. Quit getting distracted by clowns.
Last, it has to be time-based. A goal without a timeline is easy to put off and leads to procrastination. "I can eat donuts today and start next week." Turns into next week, and then turns into next year, and the next, and before you know it, your dead with Harry, while the college-aged leggings looks at you with pity and says, "Poor Harry." OR WHATEVER YOUR NAME IS.
I love you!! I want you to live a rich and rewarding life before it is too late, A life with goals and progression is a life of continual adventure. So, set a goal and crush it.
Alpha Dog Mindset: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoVrJNSF0If3ypigSKv4zQg