Too often, it seems like people want to say "Well it can't be all bad." Because of the good things that came with it. Sometimes bad is just bad. Please, quit negating the fact that it was bad because of the good things. I do understand that the opposite is done. Sometimes people will negate all of the good because of a bad thing.
What gets me about negating a bad thing because of the good is that it can destroy a person. Because you tell them that the bad things they went through mean nothing, because of the tiny good things that happened.
This is something that hits my heart because I've gone through it. It took me years to come to terms with the mental and emotional abuse I went through when I was younger. Most of the time, my father's wife made me feel like I had a normal childhood because of the occasional "fun" thing. A lot of bad things happened, too, and it made me feel bad to remember bad things and act like the good never happened, but I don't forget the good things. I just like to also remember how bad it really was.
One example is when I was ten years old, I said I wanted to kill myself. It happened on the bus from school, so I had mandatory, crisis intervention counseling. Now, by the time I was ten, my parents had gotten divorced, I had gotten hit by a car when I was on a bike, my mom had gotten in trouble with drugs, and even more had happened. But for someone that young to have gone through that, who wouldn't need counseling by then?
It took my school demanding it for it to happen, and I only got one session. Then, when we got home, my stepmom told my siblings that "We paid fifty dollars to find out she's not crazy." Then I got "extra chores to pay for it."
It's something that will always stick to me. It's one of many stories that made me feel awful about myself. Granted I could tell you about glow bowling, and the other various fun things that happened (none of which I can remember off the top of my head). Both will come to me at random times: good and bad. But just because I can remember good things, doesn't make the bad things any less bad.