Sometimes it’s really difficult to figure out whether or not you should break up with someone. Other times, there’s no excuse not to end it. If you’re on the fence about someone or just starting to get to know a new guy or gal, here are 7 sure-fire reasons to harden your heart and give ‘em the ax.
1. They slut-shame you or others.
If a guy praises you for how low your number is but turns his nose up at your “slutty” friend, get out of there. You don’t want to be with someone who judges your worth by how many people you’ve done the dirty with. Same to you, guys. A real woman knows your manhood has nothing to do with your number.
2. They body-shame you or others.
If he’s criticizing someone else’s body, he’s insensitive and judgmental. If he’s criticizing your body, he’s showing signs he could be a potential abuser. Same goes for women. Abusive personalities love to make you feel insecure and down on yourself, and criticizing little things about you is where they tend to start.
3. They make you feel bad about yourself.
It’s simple: you deserve to be with someone who thinks the world of you. If she’s making you feel like less of a man instead of supporting the man you are and the man you could grow into, get her out of your life. Same to you, ladies. You deserve a man whose mouth will drop in amazement when you walk down the aisle someday.
4. They steal you away from your friends and family.
We’re not talking about when you’re so crazy about someone you want to be with them 24/7 and see your friends and family just a little less often than before. That’s normal! What isn’t normal is when someone purposely keeps you away from your friends and family, trying to convince you to cancel plans with them or to see them less specifically to see them more. Bad sign. Your significant other should want you to have happy and healthy relationships in all areas of your life, beyond them, not for you to be dependent. If you see yourself being pulled away from the people you love by someone who’s supposed to be good to you, cut it off.
5. They want kids and you don’t (or vice versa).
It’s one thing if you’re sixteen and you have no idea what you really want and it’s just hunky-dory puppy love. It’s another thing if you’re in your 20s and up and you disagree on something that big. If you’re not quite sure what you want and you’re willing to date someone who is, that’s fine. But if you know beyond a doubt what your answer is to the kids question and it's different from theirs, cut it off. You’re setting yourself up for a whole lotta heartbreak if you don’t cut them loose on this one.
6. They’re unwilling to compromise.
Compromise may be the single most important aspect of maintaining a healthy and happy relationship. If your significant other expects you to compromise but then can’t seem to compromise for you, end it. You deserve (and need) someone who is capable of meeting you in the middle. If they’re not, your life together is either going to be a big series of fights and disagreements or constant suppression of what you need and want to please them.
7. They’re making you more unhappy than happy.
This is the simplest way to decide whether or not to stay with someone. You could argue it’s oversimplifying things – What if things were once awesome and they’re just bad for a little while? What if the good times are really good? – But here’s the thing. If your significant other isn’t actually making your life better today, who’s to say they will tomorrow? How long are you willing to wait for it to get better? And how many people out there would be totally capable of making you happy all the time, not just sometimes? If this sounds like you, here’s your sign: cut ‘em loose.